Ask Elizabeth: How Do I Protect My Peace Around Negative People?

Dear Elizabeth,

I’m surrounded by people who are constantly negative—complaining about work, criticizing others, or always expecting the worst. I try not to get pulled in, but it wears me down. I don’t want to become negative myself, but I also don’t want to cut these people out of my life. How can I protect my peace when I’m around so much negativity?

— Drained by Negativity

Dear Drained,

This is such an important question. Negativity is contagious, but so is peace. Protecting your peace doesn’t mean shutting others out; it means learning how to manage your energy so you can stay steady even when others aren’t.

Here are a few ways to keep negativity from pulling you under:

Pause Before You Absorb

When someone starts complaining, take a slow breath and remind yourself: This is their energy, not mine. That pause gives you the space to choose how you respond rather than automatically joining in.

Shift the Conversation

Redirect with a gentle pivot. For example: “I hear you, and I wonder what a possible solution could be?” or “That does sound tough—what’s one good thing that happened today?” You’re not dismissing them; you’re inviting balance.

Limit Your Exposure

If certain people drain you consistently, it’s okay to limit the time you spend in their company. Protecting your peace may mean choosing shorter interactions or spacing them out.

Ground Yourself Daily

Have a peace practice that fills your cup—prayer, journaling, walking, or even listening to uplifting music. When your inner tank is full, you’re less likely to be shaken by external negativity.

Elizabeth’s Reminder: You can’t always control the energy of others, but you can always choose the energy you bring. Protect your peace, and you might just inspire others to soften theirs.

With love and gratitude,

Elizabeth